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My name is Chifundo (Mercy) and I live in Malawi Africa.

I am a curious student of life. I would like to help people fulfill their purpose in life by increasing their SELF-AWARENESS. Through many ups and down in a country full of poverty, hunger, and disease, it is very easy to give up on life.  I have been there and I know it. Many of us have defined our life by circumstances we have faced. We fail to choose happiness because of the shame and helplessness we go through daily. We fail to see our true potential amidst the pain of life.

"Self Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment".Pathwaytohapiness


I grew up in a strong culturally defined social setting. There are a set of norms and beliefs on how to conduct life. Principally life is viewed from a perspective of black or white, wrong or right, man or woman etc. There is no spectrum of choices. You are either this or that. Sadly though, this faulty description is what defines who we are.



I remember during my early years in the village there was a game I used to like so much but I was not good at it. I had to be chosen to be a team member and play. On all occasions, I was not chosen. I would be put as a substitute and never had a chance to play. Little by little, my shame grew and I stopped trying to play. That was the end of me with the beloved game. A lid was put on my life. You are not good enough!

Believe you me, real life has no such lids. We all need to believe in our abilities and choose to be different. We need to take that leap of faith and do what our heart and soul desire. We need to look in the mirror and assure the SELF that we are complete. Remember, you never fail before you have tried.


"Self-awareness is different from book knowledge. You cannot memorise it from an academic book. Self-awareness is developed through exercises and practices. You need to change the false beliefs in your mind."
I have a passion for connections. I love to connect, learn and grow. I crave for new experiences. I would like to connect and grow with you.  I want to live happy inside and outside, I want to live my life in full. I want to be intimate with myself.

About Connect and Grow

Connect and Grow is about self-love.  Connect and Grow is your Life Coach. Drawing from own experience and from others, we will go through a process of supporting each other on a journey of self-discovery to living a fulfilled life. We will discuss the SELF, explore our own personality traits and those of our close family and friends, Identify forms of abuse and develop personal power to overcome abuse.

 Unless we commit to working on the SELF from inside, there is a big chance that we will not live to our full potential. Our true needs in life will not be met. It is time to make self-care a priority and grow love from within.

DISCLAIMER

I am not preaching this approach to self-awareness and happiness from a naive background. I have fought many issues with low self-esteem and abuses from all facets of life. I have failed in school, business and life in general, countless times. But I am still standing with new hope. I AM ENOUGH.

I am not a trained or certified Therapists. I do not offer professional counseling. I share what I have learned in life. I am on a journey to self-recovery. I am here to share with you what I have learned on this journey. I believe everyone deserves a great fulfilled life. 

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